Family Custody Court
30 03 2007ASL Vlog - Approx 5:40 Minutes Long
Talked about how Grant Laird Jr raised in deaf family battle over children custody at court for years in 70s and 80s.
Today, we still see similar problem everywhere. Unfortunately.
Grant W Laird Jr.
http://blog.grantlairdjr.com
Well Grant… I have the smiliar problem with me.. My parents were divorced when I was 7 years old, and they were fighting over me and my bioligical sister. Everybody say that small children should stay with their mother and father get the kids on visitation. Mothers have VERY soft heart for kids which I can understand. My mother won full custody of me and my sister and we had to see my father every 2 weeks by judge’s order.
I have a very good friend who has 3 really small children. She and her ex-husband been together for 12 years, and they got divorced, he went to State of Washington and she stays in Morgantown, WV, the kids were like 5, 3 and 9 months old. The father want the oldest and 3 years old and move to state of Washington, and mother doesn’t allowed him. She wanted him to visit the kids or have the kids for summer. The kids are very small and not understand, and you know kids missed their mother too much than father. I can tell that. They went to the court and fought for 6 months and the mother won the full custody and she get the kids, and father sees the kids on holidays and 1 month in summer which is fair to the mother. I have seen this kind of options all the time here in US.
IF this happen to me, I cannot bear to stay away from my own kids, I must have my own kids to stay closer to me, it’s just the mother’s thing… I am sure your mother felt bad about letting you go stay with your father, she might have felt like a knife stabbed in her heart when you went 900 miles away from her. I am sure all mothers felt that way. Now I understand about fathers too. I always noticed that fathers always busy and working around the clock to pay the bills and everything than mother does. My father works like from 11am to 7pm, and who watch me during the afternoon, I rather to be with Mom than the babysitter or other relatives. You know what I mean. It’s tough for every children in the world who have parents are divorced…
Yours is very interesting… I guess 25 years ago is old than right now. Right now, judges are VERY strict with the laws who should get the custody of the kids. There are like 70% divorced parents in the world. Shame, isn’t it???
Hi Grant,
First of all, I wanted to tell you that I was laughing at your facial expression in the end because you struggled to stop your webcam. You made it. lol.
There is no ? that divorce is terrible for children. Many divorcing mothers and fathers are surprised when they realize how much control they have over the way their children live through their painful divorce.
You expressed your understanding where they come from like you said you felt like you were in the middle when your friends go through the situation like you went through when you were young. Lot of people don’t understand how frustrated, confused, lost, scared, angry, sad, and painful children are. Your experience has been shown so others would not feel alone like they have to go through the same situation. Thank you for sharing.
I suspect that you’re G.’s brother because of your last name and she is from Pa. We used to be a good penpal long time ago. That was about 15 years ago. I remembered her letter she wrote about her Deaf family. It’s a small world since I “met” you in here.
Regards,
Bug